What to do when feeling stuck

Josephine Thestrup

Hi! 

I am struggling because I feel like the program is not working for me. I am listening to meditations every day and I am aware of the negative filter in my head so I will say an encouraging affirmation and ask myself whether the thought is actually helpful. I tend though to start thinking about something else or falling asleep when I listen to it. I just feel like I am stuck in the program and this weekend I realized that that applies to many other areas of my life as well, such as my running carrier, my work in becoming more social, some of my relationships, my painting skills, my project in learning to speedread. 

I have felt down and quite of nervous lately and I know many of the tools to feel better but honestly I have been overwhelmed or just felt this huge brain fog so I have not had the insight to determine what to do. I so badly want to remove this invincible wall I feel like I have imposed on myself but I do not know where to start. 

Jessica Connor, Ph.D.

Hi Josephine,

We all encounter times when we feel a little "stuck." This is our inner, Higher self prompting us to make a change - to seek out a new experience that allows us to thrive in joy. In reading your post, I'm happy to hear that you recognize that it is the thoughts that are causing these feelings. That's a huge part of making the change!

A couple of tools that you might find helpful:

1. Dedicate some waking time to focusing on something you really love. I would recommend about 30 minutes each day, without distractions if possible. If you catch your mind wandering to something else (that you prefer not to think of), don't judge those thoughts. Just recognize them. Say to yourself something to the effect of, "Oh, there's my mind doing that thing it does again. I'm gong to consciously shift back to focusing on what I love," Practicing this will begin to train your brain that you are in charge of what you allow to come in, and what you don't.

2. Imagine that in this life you are on a motorcycle with a sidecar driving through your experiences. Any time you feel your mind shifting to something you're not in alignment with, envision putting that part of your mind (and those thoughts) in the sidecar. Tell it that you are the driver and that you get to choose the thoughts you entertain. Keep doing this until you train this part of you to stay in the sidecar - that you are in charge and that it only gets to go along for the ride.

3. Tell yourself each day, especially upon waking up, that TODAY you are going to actively look for new, fresh and inspiring opportunities. The more you make this conscious decision, the more you will begin to discover things that inspire you. 

You have the power in you to make the change! And you have tremendous possibility inside of you! The fact that you have come here to search for ways to make that change means you are ready for it. In each moment, choosing to become in charge of your life creates a habit that allows those possibilities to flourish in your life. You're on the right track!  And as always, you can come here for support any time. 

-Jessica

Shelia Thurman, LCSW

Dear sweet Josephine, I understand that place, as do most of us at various points in this process. It is the place of effortling, of pushing too hard. Becoming a deliberate creator needs to be a playful practice. Remember that everything is energy and LOA does nothing but match up vibrational frequencies. Hard word begets more hard work. Frustration begets more frustration. The mode of receiving is constant. To receive those things we desire we must conjure up positive emotions. Even the emotion of hope is good. This we do with self talk. Affirmations are powerful but only if we can feel them shift our internal state. I call that self soothing. Sometimes we do get stuck in that place of overwhelm and frustration. That is a beautiful time to step back and soothe. It looks like this:

It's okay. This is temporary
I'm doing okay
I'm alright
I understand this. I'm going to get past this.
It's okay for me to be in this place.
This is a place of gaining clarity.
My desires are getting stronger. That is a good thing.
I love and accept myself right where I am.

And so on... The key is to go general, be gentle, talk to yourself like you would talk to a four year old. Let go of the seriousness. You are doing well. You are on track. You are practicing the tools. Be gentle with yourself. Smile and laugh just for the heck of it.

I call this my "back to basics" periods. All is truly well and I must remind myself of that constantly.

Let me know if this is helpful to you. You are in the top 1% of people because you are practicing. This is not an overnight matter. Our goal is to get better and better until it becomes automatic. Mastering conscious creating must become our lifestyle. The journey is emotional. Soothe yourself into better feeling states. It's okay to be right where you are. Nothing is more important than how you feel. Be gentle and loving with Josephine.

Shelia ❤️

Josephine Thestrup

Hi Jessia and Shelia, 

Thank you for your encouraging words and good advice. I love the analogy with the motorcycle with the sidecar. I will try that out and be better with implementing affirmations reassuring myself that I am on the right track. I am a hard worker and sometimes struggle to relax so taking a step back and not effortling it too much might do me very good. It is nice to hear from someone else that it is okay to take a step back. 

I will let you know how it goes and probably be back with more questions. Thank you again :)

Best, Josephine